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You said:
My period is 16 days late and now and again i keep getting stomach cramps on each side of my lower part of my stomach. A week b4 i was due on i had just had sex with my boyfriend and i went to the toilet to wipe and i had a kind of brownish dishcharge so automatically i thought i had come on this only happened 4 2 days. A few days ago me n my bf tried 2 have sex but i told him 2 stop because when he got 2 a certain place inside me it started 2 hurt just like the pain i have before i come one and now and again i get a burning sensation after i have passed urine.. recently my stomach cramps have died down a lot but still no period... can you help me?
You sound like you are in a lot of pain and distress. Have you thought about going to the GP and telling them this? It looks like it is worth making an appointment to see a medical professional in the next few days, it may seem embarrassing but believe me there is nothing that they haven’t heard before! The student medical practice had drop in sessions every morning (number at the bottom of the page) as do many other practices in the area. It may be worth restraining from intercourse if you can until you get checked out by your GP. Best of luck!
You said:
I recently had sex for the first time, however, i did not feel an orgasm. A friend told me that it was due to the fact that it was my first time, however, I have now had sex about four times and am still unable to feel an orgasm. I am easily able to feel an orgasm through masturbation but not sex. I am beginning to get worried, could there be something wrong with me?
Whilst males are generally known to be able to reach orgasm and climax quickly and with anyone, women are a lot harder to please. Reports show that only 32% of women can achieve orgasm directly through penetrative sex. Magazines and TV programmes portray images of couples achieving effortless and fantastic orgasms. Yes sex should be fantastic but sometimes someone has to put the effort it. It is worth remembering that most teens and young adults cannot achieve orgasm on demand through penetrative sex with many women experience multiple organisms around the age of 30.
Male orgasm is a pretty straightforward process; after experiencing a spontaneous desire they then become aroused (erection/excitement) and finally achieve orgasm after direct stimulation to the penis.
However, women are a lot more “complicated”. Environment tends to effect desire in the first place, so make sure where you and your partner are having sex is comfortable and safe for you. Ask your partner to take time exploring your body with kissing and cuddles before any sexual contact takes place; this excitement and body awareness are all aids for successful intercourse. Furthermore, sexual
cues- such as feeling attractive, smells and memory have a role. Try to see sex as a positive experience- the more you try the more likely
you are to hit that g spot!
http://www.netdoctor.co.uk/sex_relationships/facts/orgasmtrouble.htm,
http://www.durex.com/cm/magazine_content.asp?intmenuopen=13&article=60
these websites may be able to give you more information.
You said:
ive recently been experiencing a thick clear jelly like discharge and also when i pass water there is a strong odour too unlike normal. i have been to the doctors and have been tested for a uti but they say i have no infection. I have also had tests in the past which have come back normal so im baffled as to how they cannot have detected anything. Im concerned because i tend to get frequent ocurrances of water infections ( cystitis) and am worried that if something isnt done it could lead to some type of scarring or complications should i wish to conceive in the near future, but what can i do if i am being told that im clear?
Answer: From reading your question I can tell that both the discharge and the odour are concerning you. I would suggest that you consider seeing the doctor who ordered the tests initially and ask for an explanation of what can be causing them and why no more tests are being done. If you find that s/he isn’t receptive to this, or doesn’t answer your questions satisfactorily, then I would suggest you see another GP doctor about this matter. Explain the situation to them, including how you’ve tried to get to the bottom of this and how you’re really like to know what’s going on. Persistence will pay off! There may well be nothing wrong but it is important that you are not left worrying about this.
You said: I thought I came off my period last Friday, and after that night I had unprotected sex. Since then I’ve been bleeding and its like a week after. Help. I’m scared. Do i have hiv? And how do i check.
Answer: I think it would be wise to book an appointment with you GP in the next day or so. It’s easy to let our minds go to all sorts of places when we’re frightened, but the best way to allay your fears is to be seen by a doctor who can definitively tell you about your health by taking a history, performing an exam and (where necessary) ordering appropriate investigations. From this they will address your concerns and discuss an appropriate course of action. This may include testing for pregnancy, HIV and other sexually transmitted infections (STIs). As an aside, it might be wise to carry a few condoms with you when you go out. This way you’ll feel better knowing that you’ve taken care of yourself and that you’re prepared for anything! Also, feel free to ask a potential sexual partner about their HIV status. They should be up front with you if they are carrying any STIs. Even if they claim to be clean (i.e. free of disease and infection) it is still a good idea to have him wear a condom. I hope all goes well with your GP!
You said: Can a girl get pregnant if she is still a virgin and his penis didn't touch her vagina and if the girl and the guy were wearing underwear?
Pregnancy seems unlikely in this situation as pregnancy can only occur if semen enters the vagina. As long as you and your partner were wearing clothes you will probably be ok. If you are still worried you could pop down to the GP or sexual health clinic and run through your concerns with a professional (numbers are on the bottom of the page).
No problem is too big or small and they will be happy to advise you and give you free condoms if needed!
Have you thought about using condoms the next time you two are “having fun” to put your mind at rest? There is no problem with using protection if you are not having penetrative sex- for example STDs can still be transmitted through oral so they will help protect you from that. Don’t be embarrassed to talk to your boyfriend about your
concerns- he will respect your maturity.
You said:
I am 14 and although i can get a erection and be very turned on i carnt cum i have tryed to wank but after a minuite or 2 my penis starts to hurt am i wanking wrong wat should i do?
There are a number of reasons for this to occur, such as, medication, psychological barriers or even that your body has not fully developed sexually yet. I recommend you visit your GP or your local sexual health clinic (there are details at the bottom of the page). It is normal to be nervous about visiting your GP about a sexual health problem but they are trained professionals and, the likelihood is that they have seen it before; they will not judge and they will know how to help. If you do not wish to see your GP then you can visit the sexual health centre. You can use a fake name, your visit will not go on your medical records unless you wish it to and the professionals there deal with sexual health on a daily basis. Just remember, you are not alone in this, there are many people who are willing and able to help; you may even find that just talking to a professional about this will help matters.
You said:
Hi, while touching my partner down there, his tip was wet and he said it was his semen. I immediately avoided touching that area, as I got a bit on my fingers. My question is, can semen seep through jeans and his underwear unto me? Also, after 30-40 minutes of that incident I had touched myself down there. Will I get pregnant if the semen had dried (I didn't wash it off my fingers, although I did wipe it off). Thanks.
It sounds like your partner was leaking a bit of ‘precum’ – a totally normal part of being an aroused male. He’s right in telling you that it’s semen – it’s possible that there were some sperm in there. While the chances are minimal that any sperm traveled through jeans and cotton fabric to get to inside of you, it might be a good idea to see your doctor about the latter issue of touching yourself after being in contact with semen. After 30 or 40 minutes I suspect the chances of pregnancy would be low, but sometimes our memories of what happened after sex, including knowing exactly where our hands were can be muddled. Pop in and see your GP, but don’t get worked up – it’s important that you’re being vigilant and asking about it!
You said:
When my husband inserts his penis inside me, I feel the urge to fart with all that pressure inside me. It doesn't matter if he did it slow or fast, i still had the same feeling. i tried pushing but nothing seems to happen except more air somehow coming inside.
i also tried moving around but that doesn't help either.
i kinda wanna figure out how to "push out the air" with his penis inside because my pelvic muscles seem to be strong according him and in one sense he is correct by me ejaculating quite a bit during my peak of orgasm .
Any suggestions/thoughts on this issue?
What you’re describing is not uncommon – but understandably embarrassing! Vaginal farting (also called fanny farting or queefing) is a common event in penetrative intercourse as the penis acts like a big plunger and can push a lot of air inside you - in either your anus or vagina. The ‘farts’ or ‘queefs’ are simply built up air being expelled forcefully. You can speak to your doctor about these if they continue to bother you or get painful, but there is nothing to suggest that there is anything wrong with you or your partner as these are natural occurrences during sexual intercourse. Enjoy your sex and have a good laugh with the farts!
You said:
If white soft stuff comes out of your left breast does it mean your pregnant??
Breasts are glands and so may occasionally secrete fluids which can be perfectly normal. As I am not a doctor and cannot see the secretions the best thing you could do is to see your GP. Have you thought about this already? There is no harm in seeing a Doctor with this issue as they will be able to give advice on what might be causing the secretions. Remember not to be embarrassed - GPs are trained to help with these matters. If you’re not already signed up with a one, Leeds Student Medical Practice, 4 Blenheim Court (Tel: 295 4488) will be able to sort you out. Good luck!
You said:
My parnter was treated for syphilis 6month backs,i tested negative for it.
he was treated with antibiotics given to him by our gp,but my gp said his body will still carry the syphilias virus and i wonder if we stopped using condoms like before will i catch it? even thought our gp says its all clear
Successful treatment of syphilis will not protect you from a new source of infection but it sounds like you’re in a secure relationship so this should not be a problem. If your partner has been to the GP for his follow up test to check the infection has gone and the result is still negative then you should be “good to go!”. Remember that if you choose to refrain from using condoms then an alternative method of contraceptive should be used to prevent any unwanted pregnancies such as the contraceptive pill/injection. If your GP has said it is ok to have sex then follow their advice but there would be no harm in
ringing up/making an appointment and chatting through your concerns.
This website provides information on syphilis which you may find useful:
http://www.fpa.org.uk/information/leaflets/documents_and_pdfs/detail.cfm?contentid=168#16
You said:
Hi i have recently tried anal sex with my boyfriend and he came in side me, will this harm me in anyway ?
Anal sex exposes participants to some complications but if you you practice safe sex then this should not be a problem. Infections are possible due to the high number of infectious microorganisms found in the anal canal and the anus can also be physically damaged. Obviously there is no chance of getting pregnant unless the semen accidently entered your vagina but there is still a risk that transmission of STDs could have occurred. Obviously condoms are the best way to prevent this but if you and your boyfriend get tested regularly for these then hopefully that wont cause you a problem. As i said before the main problem with anal sex is that tears will form in the skin close to the anus, therefore producing a good environment for bacteria and viruses to colonize.
There should be no problem with your boyfriend coming inside you but try to use condoms in the future each time you have anal sex and change them if you swap to vaginal intercourse. This will hopefully protect you and your partner from any bacterial infections! I hope this helps!
You said:
hello there i am amarried man for years i love my wife dearly but cant help feeling i dont satisfy her my questions are firstly after ejaculating it takes me about 45mins to a hour to get erect again is this normal and secondly i dont seem to last very long and i know my wife would like me to last longer and get erect quicker is their any advice you could give me to help get over these problems
It’s understandable to be concerned – it is important that a partner feel he (or she) is satisfying the other. I would suggest that you speak to your partner and find out from her if she is satisfied and if there is anything you could be doing differently. Communication in any part of your relationship, whether for reassurance or to find out something you aren’t sure of, is something you both will benefit from.
As for your question about the pause after ejaculation – this is called the refractory period and is perfectly normal! All male mammals have one and the time it takes is pretty constant (as you mentioned it always takes you 45 min. to an hour). In this time you can cuddle, get to know your partner by speaking to each other, or fall asleep in each others arms. You can’t fight the refractory period – so best just to be productive with the time you have in between. Once you’re ready to go again you can wow her with your new found sexual energy!
As for lasting longer…well, there’s a few things you can do. 1) you could wear a condom. This will reduce the intense sensations which might be sending you over the edge and help you last longer. You’ll still enjoy everything and likely last longer. 2) You can buy special lubricant which makes your penis less sensitive and therefore helps you to last longer. Look for this at your chemist/pharmacy. 3) You can slow down! Sex isn’t about how fast you go – it’s about enjoying the moment. So if you feel like you’re about to blow, slow down and change positions. Try something new and see if you can get into another rhythm. After trying a few new things about you might find that sex is lasting a whole lot longer – mostly because a lot of couples tend to get in a habit of only having sex in one or two positions. Mix it up and make it fun!
You said:
Does wild yam and fenugreek supplements affect birth control pills?
Wild yam is thought to contain properties alike to oestrogen so it may cause interactions with the oral contraceptive containing said hormone. Similarly Fenugreek may affect the absorption of the pill into your body but obviously, as with many of the supplements on the market, there is no hard evidence one way or another. My advice would be to talk to your GP, Pharmacist (or whoever dispenses your pill) about your concerns regarding the drug interactions and the two supplements. These people are surrounded with medicines all day- I am sure they will be able to help you! It may be worth considering using condoms or staying off the supplements until you are sure that they are safe to use with oral contraceptives.
Hi I'm 17, and have a problem I'm not sure how to deal with! When ever my g-spot it touched (or the spongy bit inside the vagina that swells when touched)even if its a couple of seconds, I urinate like a whole piss.
I've been told that when women ejaculate its a different liquid although with the sensation of needing to pee but this is definitly urine!
I haven't had sex because I'm so worried that this is an awful problem that will be very embarassing!
And also, this is also most peculiar, whenever i need a pee, if I nearly let it out, but then hold it back, and imagine having sex or kissing someone i like, or any other sexual act, its like an orgasm. I get really shivery, and the most intense heat and powerful thing comes over me like an orgasm, and i cn imagine doing the sexual act more clearly and its so real.
I'm really aware that this is SOO peculiar and can't find answers anywhere, and also wonder if this is linked to my first concern?? PLEASE please help me I have no idea whether this is normal..well I'm guessing its not and i really need some info about this!!! thankyou
Involuntary urination during intercourse is not as uncommon as you may think but it is something you could go to your GP or local sexual health clinic about. They will be able to discuss with you the possible causes and there may be a problem they uncover that they are able to treat. You may be more comfortable going to a sexual health clinic as you will be able to use a false name and it does not go on your medical records.
Having a feeling similar to an orgasm when you hold off from urinating may be linked to your initial concern as you may have, subconsciously, come to associate urination with sexual pleasure.
Again, if you go to the sexual health clinic there should be someone there who you can talk to about this.
I am sure you are not the first person to have these problems or concerns but I do think you should seek help from a doctor as worrying about this may also be affecting it so the sooner you get checked out, the better.
I am a 30 year old lesbian woman. I have problems with penetration, I have never been able to insert anything into my vagina (including tampons). I feel tense and it feels like im hitting a brick wall. I have dealt with this ok so far as it hasnt really affected my relationship but now i am worried as I havent been able to have a smear test. I would also like to have a baby. I know my first hurdle needs to be the smear test but the thought is terrifying me. Any advice for over coming this. I am also worried that my doctors surgery will not be understanding of this. Help!
It seems this issue is really bothering you so I think you should see your GP about this as soon as you can. I don't think anything sinister is happening necessarily, but I am concerned that you and your GP don't have a fully open relationship where you feel comfortable disclosing your health concerns in an open, non-judgemental environment. If you find that your GP is not understanding of your sexuality or your health concerns then ask them to point you in the direction of a GP who will be more receptive. I hope your GP will understand though - you should always feel 100% confident in discussing any health matters with them. You may well be suprised at how understanding they are and I am sure you will feel much better once you have discussed the matter openly. Best of luck!
I was diagnosed with chlamydia some time ago and at the time i recieved the appropriate antibiotics which was all well and good. Although several hours later the same night I drank alot of alchohal and was worried it may have stopped the antibiotics from working . Should i be worried ? thanks
As I'm not a doctor or a medical professional, I'm not going to try and advise you of the effect of alcohol on your antibiotics. I would strongly recommend that you contact your doctor, or the organisation from which you received the antibiotics to ask for their advice.
Hopefully speaking to a trained professional will put your mind at ease!
I gave a boy oral sex about 3 months ago. He put sperm into my mouth and i swallowed it. How long does it stay in your body for ?
In response to your question as to how long sperm stays in the body for, i would say as long as a normal drink would.
The only things to watch out for with oral sex is STIs. Although the risk is lower than with penetrative sex STIs can be passed on through oral sex. Some of these are transmitted through cuts in the month, some, such as
Gonorrhea and Chlamydia can cause throat infections and some, such as herpes and oral thrust, can be passed purely through the bodily contact invovled in oral sex. To reduce the risk of STIs, try using flavoured condoms or dental dams.
I have two questions. The first being after Ive done sexual activities I have to have a rest of at least 2 hours before I am able to become erect again. Many people I have spoken to can get erections straight after ejaculating. How would I go about solving my problem?
Secondly, I myself have had sex already yet my currrent girlfriend hasnt. We tried to have sex however my girlfriends vagina is physically impossible to get into. We're going to try lube yet I wanted to know if there was any other ways in which we could make sex either.
In regards to your first question, I’m not so sure you have a problem at all! Many guys, after ejaculating, can’t produce another erection for hours, so rest assured that what is happening is normal. You might find that other guys can do it and that can be explained by the fact that we’re all different – the ‘latency’ period for some guys can be as short as a few minutes while other guys might be done for a whole day after ejaculating. That doesn’t mean you can’t have fun though – if you want to continue to pleasure your partner you can always do so with your hands or with your mouth. You could also take a trip to Anne Summers and find a fun toy for the both of you to use. But perhaps your partner is done at the same time as you and wants to take it easy. In that case, take the time after ejaculating to cuddle with your partner and make them feel special. Hold each other close and whisper sweet things into each others ears. Or just fall asleep into one another’s arms. Best of luck!
In regards to your second question, I’m not sure what you’ve tried already, but consider having a warm bath together first, before you have sex, to get you both in the mood. Explore each other and maybe even let a finger or two slip in to help things along to open up. Keep it spontaneous and fun and always remember that penetration is not the only way to have fun with your partner! But if this fails or it is causing you a lot of grief then it might not be a bad idea for your girlfriend to visit her doctor and ask what’s up. It could be that she’s nervous about her first time and reflexively gets tighter. But have fun – I’m sure you’ll be ok and have a long and satisfying sex life.
I have several small white spots on my penis, they are hard and i couldn't help popping them. When burst a small amount of white puss is released. They do not hurt or itch but im worried about them, and too embarressed to ask a doctor. Is there anything that i can do to stop them?
My advice would be to see a doctor if there are any sort of spots on your penis that you are worried about. As I am not a doctor, and I havent seen the lumps on your penis, I'm not going to try and tell you what they might be. Would you feel more comfortable taknig to a nurse or maybe a doctor at a GUM clinic? They deal with this sort of question all the time and are trained to help you confidentially. There is a GUM in Leeds at the General Infirmary you can call and make an appointment (0113 392 6724/5). If not, you might want to try talking to one of the staff over the phone at NHS Direct
(0845 4647). You may also be able to request to see a male doctor or nurse at your GPs surgery. Even though you may be embarassed, they deal with this sort of thing all the time, and if these spots are worrying you it's best to ge them checked.
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Im 15 and i have noticed that sometimes my semen has a yellow tinge to it. I've never had sex or oral sex so it's not an STI. please help.
I don't think there is anything for you to worry about here. The colour of semen can range from clear to creamy to a bit yellowish. If any reddish colours appear, then this could be a sign of a medical problem. Uncharacteristically yellow or greenish semen could be a sign of infection usually due to the STI gonorrhoea. However, from what you describe, this doesn't seem to be the case.
If you have any further worries, contact your GP or visit your local sexual health clinic. Details for sevices in Leeds can be found below.
Me and my boyfriend had sex with a condom but it came of either when we were still having sex or when he got off me and the condom was in me instead of on him so it must of came off but we dont know when but im on the injection am i pregant because the injection is only 99% safe acording to a source on te internet could i be pregnant?
please help im so scared.
I can certainly sense that you're upset and worried about this, so I'll get straight to the options you have before you. First I'll address your question as to whether or not you could be pregnant. While the likelihood is low, you could be pregnant - even if the condom had stayed on, the risk of pregnancy is there because neither the condom nor the injection is 100% effective. However, it's important to realise that the injection is highly effective and does a great job of keeping women from getting pregnant whether or not it is used in conjunction with something else.
My suggestion is, if you are still worried, go and visit your GP and talk with them what options are right for you. If you can't get in for an appointment, don't panic - call in at your local pharmacist (chemist) and they can also advise you of your options. If this doesn't work for you either, you can always contact NHS Direct on 0845 4647. Here are some of the things they might tell you about:
Depending on when you had sex, emergency contraception might be recommended.
However, this is only effective if the sex was recent (i.e., in the last 48 hours). If it's been longer than that, the doctor or nurse may suggest that you take a pregnancy test. These can be performed quickly and easily. While you're there you may also want to be tested for sexually transmitted infections since condoms prevent these while injections do not.
I would like to commend you though - you have gone to great lengths to be protected against both pregnancy and sexually transmitted infections. So please keep up your use of condoms as they are still a very good method, even despite this foul up.
my doctor says that im having a womb infection. what does that mean?
Various untreated vaginal infections can cause a womb infection. If you do not know, the womb (or uterus) is where a fertilised egg develops into a baby during pregnancy, and as the womb opens onto the vagina infections can easily spread. Follow your doctor’s advice and if he/she has prescribed treatment take it. Contact your GP if you are unsure on what you have or want some more information, they will be happy to help. Don’t be embarrassed to ask if you want to, the doctors are there to assist and inform their patients in any way that they can.
hello i stared the pill on may the 11 2008. and i stared my perid on may the 17 2008 and i just stoped june 8 2008. and afthere that i stared haveing a red/brown discorge and i jsut think thats old blood. and now im getting tick white yellowish discorge that smells... i usly get yellowish tick discorge but it usly dusnt smell.and im sure i have noting like STIS or STDS i only had 4 partners and htey where all clean. and my boyfriend was a virgain before he met me can someone please help me thank you.
If you are experiencing symptoms that seem to be unusual and these persist it may be an idea to visit a doctor. It is probably nothing serious but heavy discharge can be caused by an infection (sexually transmitted or non-sexually transmitted). You should pop into your GPs or the family planning clinic that gave you the pill.
Discharge is not uncommon and generally nothing to worry about especially if it is not smelly and is not accompanied by any itching or pain. However if unusual bleeding occurs this could be something that a doctor should be consulted about.
Hi. im hopeing you can help me im 14 and me and my boyfriend kinda got into some stuff.well last night we were laying down and he stuck it in half way an he didnt ejaculate in me but could i be pregnat anyway i have had my period but could i be pregnant cause i am freaking out. like could he have had sperm on his dick like it didnt even go in for like 4 seconds so could i be pregnant.. ?
If your boyfriend didn't ejaculate it's less likely that you will be pregnant. However, i would strongly advise that you go to your doctors for a pregnancy test, as it will put your mind at ease and they will also be able to give you advice on when you are likely to get pregnant and answer any questions you may have. They should also be able to give you some condoms, so that next time you can feel more secure. You should be able to ask for a female doctor at your GPs surgery, but if you don't like your doctor, or don't want to go to the doctors, you can also go to the GUM (Genito Urinary Medecine) clinic in Leeds General Infirmary. You could take a friend for reassurance, and again they will be able to give you advice and condoms. All the help that you get from the GUM or your doctor is free and strictly confidential, and the condoms are as well. If you are considering entering a sexual relationship with your boyfriend, the GUM or your doctor can also give advice on other methods of contraception and how to use them. The number for Leeds GUM is 0113 392 6724, or 0113 392 6725.
Hi. I have 2 different questions to ask and I would appreciated it if you guys could give me the answer.... I was on DEPO and I took the shot 4 times I stop it in Jun 29 2007 and I been trying to get pregnant after that and still till this day nothing. My doctor says is normal is it am worry??
My other question is I been with my boyfriend for a year and we had uinprotected sexual intercourse later on we find oiut we had chlaymidia but we got it treat it as soon as we find out... a couple of months later we bothe had blisters and little cuts in our private area and we were told by our doctor it was genital herpes now when we have sex and he comes inside me I feel like I wanna pee and when I do it burns alot why? And really worry??
In answer to your first question On Depo-provera it is common fo there to be a wait of several months
(5-6 months) before you become fully fertile again and it can take several months after that to become pregnant, some people cannot concieve until 10 to 15 months after the last injection so for the moment it should be nothing to worry about. If you still cannot concieve in 4 or 5 months time it may be worth going back to your doctor for advice. I hope this helps you rest easy. Good Luck.
In answer to your second question a burning sensation when you urinate could be a repeat infection of
chlamydia or gonorrhoea. I would recommend you both get tested again.
It is not uncommon to catch more than one STD as once you have one you are at an increased risk of catching another. If you go to the sexual health clinic they should give you a complete check up which is completely confidential and you are able to even use a fake name, the results will not go on your medical records and your GP will not know about it unless you specify that you want them to know.
hi i have took like a bunch of home pregnancy test an then i have did what my friend told me to do she said injected a lil bit of the tip inside your virgin an i did an it came back positive so could i be pregnant an i been getting bigger
Pregnancy tests are generally 97% accurate when the results are read on time and the instructions followed carefully. Most tests test pee so you need to make sure you pee on the stick or place it in the pot provided, I am not sure if you have done this from your question so sorry if you have. If you want to do another one the best time to do a pregnancy test is in the morning when the urine is most concentrated. My advice is to get yourself to the GP where the doctor will be able to help you a) find out if you are pregnant and b) help you through the result whatever the answer. You can specify a female GP is you would prefer (details of Leeds Student Medical Practice can be found below.)
Weight gain is one sign of pregnancy as is food cravings, painful breasts and you nipples may darken. Morning sickness and fatigue are others. If more than one test has come back positive it is likely you may be pregnant. I therefore urge you to see your GP as soon as possible. Good Luck!
i wanna know the answer for the follwoing questions plz the first one is it save for me and my gf to have sexual relation ship unprotected with condoms when is in in her period time? if no plz send me also the side effects? second question i am having many sexual relations with my gf only and it includes 8 as minimum to 16 max ejection from my penis in her vagina is it also healthy for me and her. thx for answering my questions waiting the answers and plz let them be as soon as possible
I'm glad to hear you're already using condoms in your relationship - that's a good practise to continue, even when your girlfriend is on her period.
This is because it is still possible for a woman to get pregnant while on her period. Sperm have the wonderful ability to live inside a woman for days after being deposited so can still have their effect several days later.
It's also possible that a woman may misread spotting (which can occur
mid-cycle) for her period. This is bad because mid-cycle is the optimal time for pregnancy to occur!
Of course condoms protect against more than just pregnancy - they protect against sexually transmitted infections. So I would suggest that since you're both already using condoms that you continue using them!
I'm sorry but I'm unable to answer your second question because it isn't clear what you're asking. Please message us back and we'll do our best to answer your question
Myself and my fiance have been trying to have a baby for 2 yrs without any luck, he was informed this wk that he has a slightly low sperm count, is their any particular reasons for this & do you have any suggestions as to how we could have a child together?
IThe majority of men with subfertility have a low sperm count
(oligospermia) of unknown origin.
This does not mean that there is absolutely no chance of you conceiving naturally. However, your partner's low sperm count may reduce your chance of getting pregnant.
There is little that can be done in the form of direct treatment. It may be worthwhile looking into assisted conception procedures such as superovulation / intrauterine insemination or IVF.
You might receive more advice by contacting a family planning clinic that specialises in this area.
I have some itchy feeling in side my vagina and it gets red and when i pee it burns. and at night it bothers me but in the day its okay could i have urinary infection!?
I'm not a doctor, so i'm not going to advise you on what it might be, but i would strongly recommend you go and see your doctor. They'll be able to tell you what you have and give you some antibiotics if necessary. In most GP surgeries, and definitely in Leeds Student Medical Practice (see contacts below), you can request to see a female GP if that's what you want. If you don't want to see your doctor for any reason, then you could also call the GUM clinic in Leeds General Infirmary on 0113
392 6725 and make an appointment.
I'm the pill and have been having unprotected sex with my boyfriend for a few weeks. I have recently been tested and tested negative for all stis, and my boyfriend has never had sex before. However I notice after sex after he has come, the come is a brownish colour not the usuaul whitish colour. What should i do? is this unusua?i want to tell him but i dont want to scare him, is it serious and so should i make him go to the doctor?
Chances are if you've spotted this then your boyfriend probably has too but is unsure how to broach the subject himself. I would recommend that he go to the doctor but broach the subject gently, maybe suggest that you both go for a check up together just to ensure that everything is ok. If he's worried about people finding out that he's been for a check, go to the sexual health clinic, you can use a fake name and not even your GP will know about your visit unless you wish them to know.
I first had sex about 2 months ago and about 2 or 3 weeks after my first time I started to get a nasty fishy odour from my vangina. Since we didnt use condoms I thought it may be an STI so I got tested for chlamydia and gonhoria but it came back negetive. Im a very clean person and after ive showerd the smell will be gone but in like an hour later the smell starts to come back. It's very frustrating as its stopping me from getting intamate with my partner and I know its very strong and nasty, I can sometimes smell it as soon as I just take my underware off! Please help!
Well done for going to check yourself out for STIs first, its good that you are acting responsibly and understandable that you want to go back to your normal self!! A fishy odour can occur due to an infection, this can be due to Chlamydia or an infection called bacterial vaginosis (BV). As you’ve got a negative result for the former infection it would be worth taking yourself to your GP where a vaginal swab can be taken. BV occurs when there is an imbalance in the normal flora in the vagina, there is no definitive answer to why it occurs but there is evidence to suggest having sex with a new partner can lead to its development. It is not regarded as a sexually transmitted disease.
You have not mentioned if you have experienced any change in discharge? If what you are experiencing is BV then it can be easily treated with antibiotic medication or creams. As I said earlier, take yourself down to your GP and talk to your Doctor.(As i am not actually a doctor he/she may have other ideas and will be able to give you more
information.) Everything will be treated confidentially and they are used to dealing with possibly embarrassing situations. Good Luck!
I used to sleep with my friend who was bisexual ... wat test i should undergo so as to check the physical relationship !! its been around 1.5 years from nw .. from that day i m quite disturbed ... please help me ...
I shall do my best to answer your question based on how I understand it. If your sexual health concerns you then it would be wise to go and be tested at your GP or the GUM clinic. They will do this confidentially and will get you your results fairly quickly. In future it might be a good practise to be tested for all sexually transmitted infections at regular intervals (say, once every 8 to 12 months, depending on how sexually active you are). This will help keep you at ease about your health. See below for useful contacts.
i have no feeling at all during sex. its just numb. i feel like i have a deformity. ive been to a clinic to talk to them and they said its probably just a mind thing but i know its a physical abnormality. what do i do?
I can imagine that this must be quite frustrating for you, especially as you have sought advice in the past but have experienced no improvement.
It may be a good idea to go and see a woman doctor at a family planning clinic or at your local sexual health centre. These doctors are usually experts in this area and a chat with them may help you on your way to solving the problem.
Hope that helps and good luck.
If i had concerns about an STI do i have to go to a GUM clinic or can i go and talk to a doctor down at my local surgery? I dont know where my local GUM clinic is so thats why im asking whether its okay to book an appointment with a doctor and ask them about it. Please write back soon because this has been a great concern for me for quite a while now,i just dont want to embarrass myself by goin to my local surgery and telling them i think i have an STI. Please help!!
It is absolutely fine to go to your doctor and get tested for an STI if you have symptons that suggest you have one. Some doctors will not test for STIs if you have no symptons however. Everything that happens at your doctors is confidential as it is at the GUM clinic. If you feel comfortable with your doctor then they will probably be the best person to visit. If you live in Leeds the details of the GUM clinic are below. You can walk there from the town centre. However if you are happy to see your doctor this is probably the easiest course of action.
After having sex with my boyfriend i find that i am sore and unable to have sex for at least a day or 2 without being in discomfort. is this normal and what can i do to stop the discomfort?
Discomfort during sex can be due to many things such as stress, thrush or an allergy to latex. I would strongly recommend that you see your doctor to determine the cause and see what can be done. If you are not registered in Leeds you should be able go to the Leeds Student Medical Practice as a guest, or register easily - 0113 295 4488, or visit the GUM clinic in Leeds General Infirmary for a check up (Leeds GUM - 0113
295 4820). Everything that happens in both places is totally confidential. Sex should not be painful, so finding out what is causing the pain will enable it to be treated and should help make sex a lot more comfortable for you.
I used my hand to break my penis when it was erect (upward). Now (two years without sex) I feel my penis can erect but it is only strong when I force it (like using muscels)but this cannot last for more than several seconds. If I don't force it it can still erect but I feel it is not strong enough to penetrate and it would be broken or lose erection If I get into a sexual action. Is there a cure for such a problem ? do I need surgery ? or is there some recipy that can help me?
In the past broken penis’ were treated with pain killers and ice packs often leaving men with diminished sexual performance or impotence. Today simple surgery is available to repair torn ligaments in the penis, which is what may have happened to you. My advice is to take yourself to your GP as soon as possible where he will probably want to examine you but will hopefully be able to get you back into sexual action.
I'm 16 and my boyfriend and i are sexually active. The other night we were having sex and when he pulled out he couldn't get back in again, i had sudden vaginal tightness and now his finger doesn't even fit up there, what is wrong with me?
This may simply be a symptom of stress but I would recommend that you visit a sexual health clinic or your GP to get a check up just in case. If there is a problem they will be able to help. If you go to a sexual health clinic it is completely confidential and the visit will not go on your medical record so may be the best option if you feel uncomfortable or embarrased going for the check up. See contacts below.
hi im 23 year old married man. my married life its about 4 years. we've got one lovely doughter when we having SEX some times ok but some times i get orgasm (my water) within a minite. Can you PLEASE help me why is that? is it something wrong with me? i use to do lot mastrubations. is it possible because of that? PLEASE HELP ME. THANK YOU......
I am not a doctor so I can not be 100% sure but it seems unlikely that you would have a medical problem or anything wrong with your penis. Is it possible that you experience anxiety about your sexual performance towards your wife? As this is a fairly common cause of premature ejaculation it may be worth discussing the problem with your partner. You may find that enjoyable sex does not always depend on delaying ejaculation; she may find other forms of stimulation enjoyable for example oral sex.
Other methods to try and change your situation could include “the squeeze technique” which allows both partners to recognise the sensations that occur before you get your water therefore giving you
greater control. See http://www.partnertherapy.com/node/452 for details.
http://www.partnertherapy.com/node/457 may also be worth a look- try to include your partner in these exercises if you can.
If you are unable to treat the problem with self help methods it would be worth having a frank discussion with your GP
How can I enlarge my penis? As most of the females are interested in large size. plz advice
Thank you for this commonly asked question. From talking to friends, and through my own experiences, it appears to be a common misconception that increasing the size of your penis is important in wooing the opposite sex. It does, however, appear more important for men to 'feel adequate'
and not want to disappoint their female/male partner. Increasing penis size is not an easy feat, despite what the numerous spam emails that flood our inboxes daily may suggest. Penis-enlarging pills have no scientific basis behind them, and are often marketed to target the vulnerable male population who may be feeling inadequate or insecure about their own penis size. An easy home remedy however involves minimal
effort: shaving the pubic hair around the base of the penis is likely to make the penis appear longer; as will losing weight. However, it is also possible that these techniques may be damaging to your chances of attracting your partner.
Most men have pondered over penis enlargement techniques throughout their lifetime. For most, it is a phase that they will pass through once they realise that penis size has largely no bearing on your attractiveness. However, for a small number, their concern for penis size becomes a psychological issue that may best be tackled by professional guidance or counselling. My recommendation is that you ignore whatever your friends say is important in a man and try to sell your positive attributes to your potential partners.
Im 15 i have never had sex but i do masturbate one day after getting out of the shower i noticed that the right testicle is much bigger than the left and the left one is quite small i get no pain nor discopfort from this and have no lumps when i check and i am worried their is something wrong i have not told my parents or my docter this as im embarrised to say please help me
Testicle size is something that many men have questions about – are they too big? Are they too small? Why does one hang lower than they other? (The answer to the last one is so that when you walk or sit down you don’t crush the two together – painful!)
I would suggest that seeing your doctor might provide you with the greatest reassurance. They can tell you if your testicles are the right size for your age. But you’ve raised a very important issue that I would like to speak to for a moment. Seeing your doctor about your genitals is absolutely nothing to be ashamed of and should be seen as no different than visiting your doctor about having a cough or cold. Your doctor, whether they be male or female, is a first and foremost a medical professional who is trained to treat you with nothing but courtesy and respect, whatever your concern. It’s worth remembering that your visit is confidential so you needn’t worry about the doctor blabbing about your balls to everyone! So I would encourage you to see your GP and have a frank discussion about this, and any other concerns you might be having. It will likely involve an examination, but it will be professional and only takes a minute or two. Best of luck.
Im with my boyfriend and were thinking about having sex, however, i get paranoid really easily and fear that the condom could split is there anything else apart from the concentrative pill i can use to put my mind at ease? Thanks.
If you're sure that you want to have sex with your boyfriend, and you are both comfortable, it's a really good decision to be thinking about contraception. Except for the male condom and the pill there are many other forms of contraception. There are female condoms, which work in pretty much the same way as the male condom, there are diaphragms or caps, which are used with spermicide to kill sperm, inside the woman's body, or there are thinks like contaceptive implants and coils for women. There are loads of options available to you. You can go and talk to someone qualified at Citywise clinic (in Leeds city centre near primark - 0113 3926725) or at the GUM clinic in Leeds general infirmary (0113 295 4820). They will give you detailed information about your options. Why not go with your boyfriend in case he has any questions? The information they give you is totally free, and they can give you free condoms and free female contraception like diaphragms or implants so you dont have to worry about paying for it.
if i am doing sex in period time then any chance to pregnent 4 my girl friend..
Yes, there is still a chance your girlfriend could get pregnant. It is possible to get pregnant at any time in a girl’s cycle and as such you should always use contraception, for example condoms and/or the contraceptive pill. For more information on what contraception is available you could contact your GP or Citywise or any other sexual health centre (contact details below).
My bf had a "kinda 1 night stand" 3years ago and said it was protected. i find out after having sex my first time with him that he did it unprotected. he has not ben checked and i understand am at risk. can i get checked on periods and how can i make someone get checked, he keeps saing he will he will, but i am not too sure.
Obviously there is a risk that your boyfriend may have caught something all those years ago but I would try not to worry. Many STIs remain symptomless for years so you are right to be concerned. I am sure you are aware that STIs (Sexually Transmitted Infections) are contracted via oral/anal/vaginal intercourse and the only way to be protected from these is to use condoms. For the time being it may be wise to refrain from sex, at least unprotected sex, until you are sure everything is ok. The GUM clinic at the Leeds General Infirmary, (off Millennium Square- info below) provides free full confidential sexual health screening with trained nurses and doctors who will be happy to talk through any worries you may have. My advice is to get yourself an appointment just for piece of mind- you should be seen within 3 days. (Ring 0113 3926724 or 0113 3926725)
As I am not a doctor I can not be 100% but I would imagine it is best to go to the clinic when you are not on your period as a vaginal swab is recommended for testing, this is a painless, (possibly slightly uncomfortable) procedure that will put your mind at rest.
Why don’t you take your boyfriend along with you? I am sure he will be impressed that you are willing to take your relationship seriously- combine it with a cinema trip, make a day of it, sexual health shouldn’t be embarrassing! If he respects you enough to sleep with you he will respect you wishes to make sure you are both STI free! As a bonus the GUM clinic provides free condoms which no doubt you can make use of!
My boyfriend and I are both virgins. Recently we have tried on several occasions to have sex but he has not been able to penetrate me, seemingly because I am too tight. Could we be doing something wrong?
You’re describing something that many women (and men) experience on their first attempts at intercourse so you mustn’t feel alone. There are a few possibilities to consider. First, is your boyfriend able to maintain his erection? Some men find that, once they’re about to penetrate, anxiety sets in and can kill even the hardest erection! If so, he just needs to relax and not be so worried - it’s both your first times so no one needs to impress the other with how skilled they are. But if he’s staying hard and you’re still tight, it could be that other techniques are needed. For starters, you might try having a sensual bath together where the two of you explore one another! It’ll help you both relax (anxiety could be causing the tightness). Try having him insert a finger, and then two (or three) to help loosen things. If you don’t have a bathtub you may find that using plenty of lubricant on your finger will help to make insertion easier (choose a water or silicon based lubricant, available at your local chemist or ‘Anne Summers’ type store). As he’s fingering you he could perform oral sex to help keep you both in the mood! Give this a go and see how it works out. If you find that you’re still having trouble do your best to make the most of the situation - just go to Plan B and perform oral sex and/or mutually masturbate one another. Afterwards, make an appointment with your GP and tell them what is happening - they might be able to help as well. No matter what, take it easy, relax, and have fun! You’ll get into it in no time and should enjoy a satisfying sexual relationship with each other.
I get sores in my vagina after i have sex. they go away after a few days but they really hurt and are itchy. they are inside my vagina on both sides. they have yellow pus on them and it makes yellow pus come out of my vagina.is it because my boyfriends penis is rubbing against the sides of my vagina this has never happened with other partners just with my current boyfriend.. HELP. what can i do to make these sores stop coming back. ?
I think the best option would be to visit your GP or nearest GUM clinic as soon as possible. The doctor will be able to examine your vagina, cervix and discharge and take some smears to rule out sexually transmitted infections and determine if anything else is the cause.
If the reason for your symptoms are due to an STI, then the sooner you receive treatment the better. You will be able to get an appointment at the Leeds General Infirmary GUM clinic within three days. The telephone number is 0113 3926724 or 0113 3926725. Or if you are a student you can join the Leeds Student Medical Practice (see below).
For the time being, it might be wise to refrain from sexual intercourse until you know the results of any tests and completed any treatment if required.
It is also possible that your boyfriend may require treatment, so that would be something to discuss with the doctor.
I've noticed over the last week or so that my semen has become very runny, almost like water, has increased in volume by quite a bit, and has a yellowish colour wheras it was previously clear / white. Is this something I should see a GP about ?
With such symptoms it's natural to think that you may have a sexually transmitted infection, that has suddenly or gradually become more obvious. In this case, it may be reassuring to visit your GP, or go to the local GUM (genito-urinary medicine) clinic - where they can check you out for all of the different types of STIs. In all of these settings, they will treat you in a very professional and non-threatening way - and will not judge any of your behaviour. Tell them what you think is important, and try to be honest with them!
As for your symptoms, the yellowish colour can often be a normal finding. People often report yellow semen, which was previously white/clear (like yourself), and discover that there is no change.
However, it would be advisable to go to your GP to get checked out - especially if you are concerned. The consistency of the semen/the ejaculation may also be important. The fact it is more fluid and watery than normal may suggest a number of things: 1. you may have been masturbating too often; 2. you may have an STI; 3. your semen may be completely clear of infection. However, it would be best for the GP to tell you which of these it is most likely to be.
Finally, if you are going to visit your GP, I recommend telling them if there have been any changes in smell recently, if you have changed sexual partners recently (and also discuss sexual history), and how long this has all been going on for! If an STI is found, the treatment is often a simple course of antibiotics.
See below for sexual health services in Leeds.
"I'm having this problem for a while, when me and my boyfriend are having sex, I get a stomach ache and it's really bad? What should I do?"
Unfortunately, I am not a doctor and so do not want to comment on what might be wrong. Although it could well be nothing I think you should visit a doctor to check it out. They might have some tips on how to make it better. If you are a student you can register at Leeds student Medical Practice. (4 Blenheim Court, telephone number: 295 4488). You can register online at www.leedsstudentmedicalpractice.co.uk.
"I have sudden skin like growths on my penis just inside the foreskin."
Unfortunately I am not a doctor and so do not want to comment on what might be wrong. You need to visit a doctor to check it out. If you are a student you can register at Leeds student Medical Practice. (4 Blenheim Court, telephone number: 295 4488). You can register online at www.leedsstudentmedicalpractice.co.uk.
"Am I pregnant if an unprotected penis goes only half way in once without ejaculating?"
If the penis did not ejaculate, and only went in once, the chance you are pregnant is small. If you are worried about pregnancy, though, you could go to your doctors for a pregnancy test, or you could go to the GUM clinic (in Leeds general infirmary) or Citywise (a clinic in the centre of town near Primark) and get a test there. They can give you advice and information, and free condoms as well as STI testing. 0113 295 4820 is the number for Citywise and 0113 3926725 is the number for the GUM which is based in Leeds general infirmary.
"Both me and my partner went to the GUM clinic together I have been told to call back in a week to get my results but my partner was told he has to go back for his. Could there be something he isn't telling me?"
When results are negative they are generally given over the phone but if there is something wrong people are often called back in (so prescriptions for antibiotics can be administered etc). If he was told to go back in before the test results were through however I do not see how it could be for that reason. The best thing to do is to talk to him once you both get the results. Perhaps the different nurses just work in different ways.
"Okay so my boyfriend and I have been together for about a year and a half and we love each other very much and we're very happy with each other. We're very attracted to each other, and we've been having a bit of a problem. My boyfriend says that this has never happened to him before with any of his past partners and he has two children from a past relationship but sometimes he can't keep it up or he can't get it up at all. Is there any reason this is happening all of a sudden and is there anything that we can do to change it or help it at all? Or should he just go get some meds for it?
They are many things that cause this. It is often stress related and once a guy starts worrying about it usually gets worse as the worry exacerbates the problem. Make sure you are patient and understanding about the problem and that he does not feel under pressure. He should also go to doctor to check there is no medical problem causing it. If it is stress related there will not be any medication to help with it directly although if your boyfriend is very stressed or depressed he could talk to a doctor or counselor about it.
"Can you trust the tablet, oil etc... for increase sex?"
I am unsure as to what exactly you are referring to. Before using any prescribed medication you should talk to your doctor about how it works and what it does. If you are referring to things bought over the counter I suppose the best thing is to try them out and see!
"I was over at a friend of mines home on November 5th, 2007, he and I messed around got in to almost having intercourse. He touched my vagina with his penis but wasn't hard enough to go inside of me. My period for November came on the 9th. However, I haven't started my period yet for December 2007, I'm overweight, my periods for about three months prior to November have been on the 9th, but before that they've been on different times. Could I be pregnant? I've taken two First Response Tests, and both have shown negative results. Please help!"
It sounds very unlikely that you would be pregnant given that you have had a period and two pregnancy tests were negative. Periods are not always regular and sometimes can be early or late by a number of days or weeks. Stress can effect your periods so the more you worry the more likely it is to be late.
"I'm on birth control and since I've started taking it I've had this brownish looking stuff coming out of my vagina. I've only been with one guy and he has only been with one girl besides me. I've been tested but I don't understand what is going on with me. It's not a regular thing. What is it?"
As I am not a doctor I cannot tell you what this could be. Some pills cause light sometimes brown periods daily so this is what it might be. You have done the right thing getting tested and as you have consulted the doctor if the problem is anything serious they will tell you. When you go to the doctor make sure you ask lots of questions and understand what is going on. Do not feel shy or embarrassed and ensure that you are not left feeling confused when you leave.
"I had yellow liquid discharge from my penis. I just notice it in my underwear (new haven't had wash)...I don't know what it is but I'm scared...when I pee it doesn't burn...it's just there a yellow liquid coming out."
As I am not a doctor I do not want to try and diagnose what the discharge is. You should go to the doctor to get it checked out. If you are sexually active it could be a sexually transmitted infection in which case it is important to get it treated ASAP so you do not pass it on. If it is an STI it will probably be easily treatable but if left could cause further complications. If you do not have a doctor and are a student you can register at Leeds Student Medical Practice (4 Blenheim Court, telephone number: 295 4488). There are also various places in Leeds that you can go to get tested for STIs. Go to 'Useful Organisations and Links' bottom of the page.
"My husband came to me this morning and he has a rash on his leg right beside his scrotum it kind of looks like ring worms but small and I am wondering if this could be a STD? I have nothing wrong with me and I don't think he would fool around to get anything like that. What do you think?"
Rashes can occur all over the body including the groin area so there is no reason to think that it is a sexually transmitted disease if you trust your husband as it sounds like you do. Ringworm and thrush can cause rashes around the groin as I expect many other conditions can. The only way to find out for definite what it is is for your husband to go to the doctor. They may be able to diagnose it straight away by the way it looks. Your husband should do this as it might be catching. This will also put your mind at rest and the problem can then be treated.
"I recently had my second sexual encounter at a party with a partner who was sexually active with about 20 partners before myself. I wore protection and I was told she was free of STIs. I'm just a bit paranoid that I may still have caught something my penis looks fine like normal but my testicles are a bit sore. Its only been one day after my sexual encounter should I go get tested? Or do you think its my paranoia of thinking I caught something make me feel like I do have and STI?"
It may certainly be the case that your increased focus on your gentile region right now may be causing you to notice aches that you previously would not have noticed. Condoms are 99% effective and the most effective way to prevent STDs. You have been sensible using protection and I do not think that you have any need to worry. However no form of contraception is 100% effective and there are other non-sexually transmitted conditions that could cause aching of the testicles so if the problem persists or you notice any other symptoms you should get it checked out by a doctor to put your mind at rest. If you do not have a doctor and are a student you can register at Leeds Student Medical Practice (4 Blenheim Court, telephone number: 295 4488).
"How can you tell if you are gay?"
There's really no easy answer to this, and it's unlikely to be something you make a quick decision about. The Leeds Lesbian, Gay and Bisexual Switchboard ((0113) 245 3588, or http://www.leeds-switchboard.org.uk/default.asp?content=home) is a listening and information service which you may find it helpful to contact. Yorkshire MESMAC http://www.mesmac.co.uk/, offer support and information to gay and bisexual men and may be able to recommend someone you can talk this through with.
"Can you get aids from kissing?"
No. HIV, the virus which leads to AIDS, is contained in the blood, sexual fluids, and breast milk of an infected person in enough quantities to infect some one else. The main ways in which HIV is transmitted are through unprotected sex (without a condom), through blood to blood, for example by sharing dirty needles, or from mother to child during birth and breastfeeding. Normal social contact such as kissing does not carry a risk of transmission.
For more information on HIV transmission and prevention, visit www.tht.org.uk/informationresources/hivandaids/howhivistransmitted/.
"Do we have to buy contraceptive pills from the store or are they free in a drug store?"
The contraceptive pill is free and can be prescribed by your doctor or a family planning clinic. You cannot buy them from the drugstore - they have to be prescribed by a doctor. There are several different types of contraceptive pill and different kinds suit different people.
If you are a student you can register with the Leeds Student Medical Practice, see www.leeds.ac.uk/lsmp/. Citywise (see the details below) also provides contraceptive advice to under 25s, and you can download a list of clinics offering contraception and sexual health services from www.luuonline.com/help/sexualhealth/clinics.
You can get the emergency or 'morning after' pill, which can be taken up to 72 hours after having unprotected sex to prevent pregnancy, from these locations, as well as from some pharmacies. Some pharmacies will charge you for this, but a GP or clinic should not.
"I am on the pill, and im going away with my boyfriend in a couple of weeks and i have worked out that i will be on my period whilst im away, if i carry on taking the pill and miss out a full 7 day break will this affect my cycle badly?"
Although it is always important to take medication in the prescribed way I am not aware of any problems that taking two packets of pills back to back may cause. However to be sure you should check with your doctor or consult a family planning clinic. I am also aware that taking the pill without a break for longer periods of time can be dangerous so make sure you have a break at the correct time the following month if you do decide to miss your seven day break.
"I have been suffering from a burning sensation in the tip of my penis, followed by a similar pain in the shaft, for a while now. The problem only occurs extremely rarely (maybe once every few months), and only occurs in the mornings, after taking my first urination. After a few minutes it goes away again, and doesn't come back for a very long time.
Also, possibly related, several minutes after every ejaculation, a see through discharge of maybe a few drops comes out. There is no pain.
I have had these problems/conditions for a long time now, since before I ever had sex. What could it possibly be?"
As I am not a doctor I do not want to try and diagnose your problem but I would advise you to get it checked out by a doctor just to be sure it is nothing serious. Also it may be something that can be treated. If you do not have a doctor in Leeds and are a student you can register with the Leeds Student Medical Practice, see www.leeds.ac.uk/lsmp/.
"Recently me and my boyfriend had sex for the first time, we used a condom but about 5 minutes into it we had noticed the condom was no longer on his penis but half inside my vagina but we are not sure if it was off before that is there any chance I could get pregnant from this? the morning after I had a bit of pain but that's about it? Could you help me please?"
If the condom ever slips off or splits during sex you should get a morning after pill. You can get these from the chemist or from Boots for about £20 or from the doctor for free. You can also get them from Citywise (see below) which is a contraception and sexual health service for young people. You can take the morning after pill up to 72 hours after sex. It will be too late to take one for this occasion however. You are likely to be fine but if your period is late or unusually light you must take a pregnancy test immediately. If you are a student you can get these for free from the Student Advice Centre (located on the second floor of the Students Union building) or you can get one from one from the Market Place (see the list of services below) or you can have a test at the doctors.
"I have recently been suffering from discharge and itching from around my vagina which comes and goes but seems to get worse after sex. I have also noticed on my partner that he has a rash around his genital area either side of his testicles. Is this likely to be a sexually transmitted infection? If so what could it be? Thank you."
The symptoms you describe could be from a common infection like thrush or bacterial vaginosis (see www.ypsh.net) - but neither of these are sexually transmitted. It is possible that you might have one of these infections but your partner's rash is something else. In any case, it would be sensible for you to both get checked out - if either or both of you do have an STI you will keep passing it to each other unless you get treated.
"I've recently been diagnosed with genital warts, and not knowing exactly when I caught them is really frustrating. Now I have the virus, does this mean that I could pass it on to anyone I have sex with in the future, even though the warts have been treated?"
Warts can come back once they have been treated, and if they do they need to treated again. If they come back they could be passed to a sexual partner - a condom can protect your partner only if it covers the whole of the affected area. The virus can also remain in the body and be passed onto a partner even if there are no visible warts. So yes, there is a chance that it could be passed on to future partners.
The BBC website has a lot of information about genital warts; http://www.bbc.co.uk/relationships/sex_and_sexual_health/stis_warts.shtml, and a GP or sexual health professional should be able to answer any further questions you might have.
"I have seen the ads for free chlamydia testing and was wondering whether I am at risk. I am 24, I have only ever had three sexual partners (all in monogamous relationships) and I have been with my current partner for two and a half years. I have never had sex without a condom. Of my partners, one had only had one previous partner and one was a virgin.
Am I likely to be at risk? And should I go for testing regardless just to be sure?
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If you have never had sex without a condom, then you are probably very low risk. When used properly condoms are the only effective way of preventing infections from being transmitted, other than not having sex at all! While they are very effective though, there is a tiny (about 1%) chance of an infection getting through. So being tested certainly won't do any harm. There are free testing sessions at LUU on the first Tuesday every month, they are advertised on LUU's website, and all it involves is filling out a forma n peeing in a pot. You results will be texted to you if you are negative and if you test positive you'll be able to get treatment asap. As it is so quick it is always worth being tested just to be sure!
"Although I have been tested at my local clinic for STIs and have had a negative result why do I have white discharge that smells like 'ammonia'?"
It's good that you have been tested, though there are lots of different STIs and this may be a symptom of one that you haven't had a test for. At the GUM clinic you should be able to have a chat about your symptoms with an expert who could then test for a wider range of infections. It is also normal for discharge to change a bit at different times in your monthly cycle, so try and keep note of whether this is the case.
"Hi. I'm really confused! I have a winged labia and I'm concerned. Is it a deformity? And should I talk to my doctor? I'm too scared to go any further with my boyfriend and have him think it's really weird. What can I do, and is there anything to get rid of it. Please answer. Thank you."
People are all shapes and sizes but if you are very worried the only way to check that everything is ok is to see a GP. If there is a problem they will be able to advise you what the options are. As for your boyfriend, it may put your mind at ease to get checked out before you go any further, but he is likely to have similar hang-ups about his body, and it's possible that he'll be too preoccupied with these, as well as enjoying himself, to notice.
"Please respond asap, I have been trying to find an answer all over the place but I haven't been able too, anyways I recently lost my virginity to someone about three months ago. Ever since he and I have been making the goal to "do it till it feels good for me" so each week we have, every time with a condom and birth control, but I'm getting worried because every time we do it still hurts! Is this normal? It's been about 12 time or more total."
It is normal for sex to hurt a bit at first, especially if you are a bit tense. It can be a vicious circle, as if you are expecting to hurt you are likely to tense up and then it will hurt more. Putting yourself under pressure for it to 'feel good' might be making you moretense. Plenty of foreplay could help make sure you are relaxed before having sex - you could even try not having actual intercourse at all for a few weeks, and build up to it gradually. The important thing is that you relax and enjoy it - don't worry too much about getting it right straight away.
"I occasionally (once a year or less) get outbreaks of small (1mm) white spots on my penis. Most are at the bottom of the head and they can be pretty itchy. They go in a few days, leaving small lesions which heal quickly. Part of the skin on the head of the penis sloughs off when I wash it during such an outbreak, then it all seems to heal fairly quickly. I had suspected herpes, but reading up, the spots do not sound like herpes spots which are said to be colourless rather than white. I would be grateful for opinion."
The symptoms you describe sound a little bit like an infection called Molluscum Contagiosum (see www.ypsh.net) - but there is no way of knowing for sure without getting checked by a GP or sexual health clinic. You should avoid having unprotected sex until you are checked and treated, as you could pass on any infection to your partner.
"Hi, I was just wondering why I get a sharp pain in what feels like my ovary area when I'm having sex in a certain position? It's painful and uncomfortable and kind of kills the moment! I'd appreciate the advice. Thanks."
It may just be the position you are using - if you don't get the pain at any other time then this might be the case. If you are concerned though, check with your GP to rule out a medical reason for this.
"I have been seeing a new man for a little over three months now, when we first got together I went to my local GUM clinic and got tested for everything and I was all clear. But recently after intercourse I've had a lot of smelly discharge which lasts for a few days. I shower regularly and even after I shower the smelly discharge is still there. What's wrong with me?"
This may be a symptom of an STI or it may be just a normal change. If you have been having unprotected sex (without a condom) with your new partner then he could have passed an infection on to you. If you think this is the case then you should both get tested again, and avoid having sex until any infections have been treated.
Thrush also causes changes in discharge. Thrush is not sexually transmitted and can occur because of changes in bacteria level, diet, or wearing tight clothing, and sometimes for apparently no reason at all! It usually causes itching as well. Treatment can be bought over the counter from a chemist.
"Can I catch an infection if a man touches my vagina with his penis whilst I have my clothes on (knickers and tracksuit bottoms)?"
Most sexually transmitted infections cannot be transmitted this way. A few, however, can be transmitted through 'close body contact' with an infected person, such as pubic lice, scabies and genital warts. If you think you may have caught something it is worth getting checked out by your GP or one of the services listed on this page. The website www.ypsh.net has information on different STIs, but remember only a health professional can diagnose you properly.
"I have been on the pill for about three years, I stopped taken the contraceptive pill about four weeks ago but am still having unprotected sex. Can I get pregnant?"
Yes you can still get pregnant if you stopped taking the pill four weeks ago. The pill will only work if you are actually taking it. I'm afraid to say that the pill doesn't have a long term effect so you need to keep it in your system for the contraceptive effect to work. The best thing for you to do is either use a condom or think about going on the contraceptive pill again. If you had problems the with last pill you took (like certain side effects) then go to your nurse practitioner and see if you can go on another one or alternatively go on a different type of contraception like the injection or the patch but if you are to do this you still need to see a nurse for full details.
With regards to the pill there are many different types available each with their own benefits/disadvantages, if you have found your current one unsuitable you should see your doctor. There are many different forms of contraception available to you now but it is important that you use something if you wish to avoid pregnancy. Condoms are available widely and will also provide you with protection from sexually transmitted diseases. For long term contraception you may wish to consider intrauterine devices (the coil) which is one of the most effective reliable methods and they can last between 5-10 years. Talk to your doctor, family planning clinic or one of the organisations listed on this page about which form of contraception would be best for you.
If you have had unprotected sex there is a chance you could be pregnant. The morning after pill, or emergency contraception can be taken up to 72 hours after unprotected sex and is available from most pharmacies and from your doctor.
"I'm a 15 year old male and have only really started to masturbate frequently (everyday)but for some reason I can't cum. I have never properly came but I have seen little dribbles on the top of my penis. I go for about 5-10 mins then decide to give up, I'm not sure how long it takes the first time, how long does it take?
I'm getting concerned because all my friends at school say they cum all the time and girls are trying to 'get in with me'. Is this normal for a boy my age?"
This is really different for everyone and the whole point of masturbating is really to find out what works for you! It's really important to remember that despite what your friends might say they are most likely to be having exactly the same worries as you, or their own, completely different worries about sex. In fact, it's quite common that those who talk about it the most are doing it less...
If you are worried about having a physical problem then you can certainly get checked out by your GP or a sexual health clinic. In Leeds Citywise provides sexual health information for young people - the contact details are in the list on this page. The website www.ypsh.net has lots of useful information and details about other sexual health services if you don't live in Leeds.
As for girls, again it is almost certain that most girls your age may seem confident about having sex but are actually very anxious about it. If and when you get together with someone, they may be relieved if you explain that you want to wait a bit - it takes the pressure off you both.
"Me and my girlfriend have been together for 2.5 yrs. We are both virgins and had safe sex recently. The condom never came off or broke but the next morning she came up and said her stomach was tight and aches what could it be, could it be anything to do with having sex? She is due to have her period soon."
Safe sex means having sex with a condom and if used properly this is 99% effective preventing pregnancy. However, even if you and your girlfriend are one of the very unlucky 1%, it is extremely unlikely that having a sore stomach the next day would be anything to do with being pregnant - it would more likely be some time before she started experiencing any signs of pregnancy.
Her stomach pain may be a result of having sex - you will have to ask her if intercourse, or perhaps the position you used was at all painful. However it is most likely something completely unrelated. If it continues then she should have it checked by her GP. If she does not get her period at the usual time (remember it is quite normal to be a few days late now and again) then she could take a pregnancy test if she is concerned. These are available from pharmacies, or you can do one for free at your GP, or if you or your girlfriend are Leeds University students, pick one up for free from the Student Advice Centre in LUU.
"My boyfriend seems to be leaking this yellow stuff from his penis and he has no idea what it is. He thinks that he might have caught something and is blaming me for it. When he pees it burns. And during the day he continuously discharges a yellow liquid and he is very worried. Do you know what this could be?"
It does sound as though he could have a sexually transmitted infection (STI),the symptoms you describe are associated with chlamydia and gonnorhoea. He should get this confirmed and treated by his GP, or at one of the clinics listed on this page - several if these run drop-in or fast-testing services. Common STIs can be treated quickly and easily, but if left alone they can get worse and cause serious health problems.
If you have had sex with your boyfriend without a condom then he may well have passed an infection on to you, so you should get tested as well. You must continue to use condoms until any treatment has had a chance to work - the doctor or nurse will be able to advise you about how long this will be.
"I've accidentally taken two contraceptive pills in one day and I only realised this morning when today's pill is already gone. Do I carry on the pack as normal or do I take the morning after pill as I had sex last night?"
It may depend on the type of pill you are using - you should have been given instructions for what to do if this happens along with your pills. If you don't have these then you should contact whoever you get your pills from to check. Don't panic though - if you do need to get the emergency pill then you can do so up to 72 hrs (3 days) after having sex, and with most types of pill you will probably b ok. Make sure you check with your pill provider though.
"I hope you can help me. I have been having problems with my clitoris - it has inflamed and increased in size for a few days to the size of a peanut and then it collapses released some discharge and is sore for a few days going back to its normal size and then I am fine again. This has occurred a few times over the past couple of years. Sometime it also becomes inflamed during my period. I am worried and afraid to talk to my doctor about it as he is male. Please could you suggest what would be the best thing to do?"
I can understand why you do not feel comfortable talking to your male doctor about this. It sounds as though you may have some sort of infection though and you should get this checked out to make sure it is nothing serious, and to get it treated so that it does not keep bothering you.
You can go to the Leeds GUM (sexual health) clinic, which has separate male and female clinics so you could be seen by a female staff member. The contact details are on the list of sexual health services below on this page. You could also go to your usual doctor and ask to be seen by a female doctor instead.
"Do we have to buy contraceptive pills from the store or are they free in a drug store?"
The contraceptive pill is free and can be prescribed by your doctor or a family planning clinic. You cannot buy them from the drugstore - they have to be prescribed by a doctor. There are several different types of contraceptive pill and different kinds suit different people.
If you are a student you can register with the Leeds Student Medical Practice, see www.leeds.ac.uk/lsmp/. Citywise (see the details below) also provides contraceptive advice to under 25s, and you can download a list of clinics offering contraception and sexual health services from www.luuonline.com/help/sexualhealth/clinics.php.
You can get the emergency or 'morning after' pill, which can be taken up to 72 hours after having unprotected sex to prevent pregnancy, from these locations, as well as from some pharmacies. Some pharmacies will charge you for this, but a GP or clinic should not.
"Can you get aids from kissing?"
No. HIV, the virus which leads to AIDS, is contained in the blood, sexual fluids, and breast milk of an infected person in enough quantities to infect some one else. The main ways in which HIV is transmitted are through unprotected sex (without a condom), through blood to blood, for example by sharing dirty needles, or from mother to child during birth and breastfeeding. Normal social contact such as kissing does not carry a risk of transmission.
For more information on HIV transmission and prevention, visit www.tht.org.uk/informationresources/hivandaids/howhivistransmitted/.
"How can you tell if you are gay?"
There's really no easy answer to this, and it's unlikely to be something you make a quick decision about.
The Leeds Lesbian, Gay and Bisexual Switchboard ((0113) 245 3588, or www.leeds-switchboard.org.uk/default.asp?content=home) is a listening and information service which you may find it helpful to contact. Yorkshire MESMAC www.mesmac.co.uk/, offer support and information to gay and bisexual men and may be able to recommend someone you can talk this through with.
"I had a normal delivery and my baby girl is now three months old. I'm breastfeeding her and have been advised to do for a year at least. Now my husband wants to have intercourse with me. He has the habit of squeezing and sucking my breasts and nipples during sex. As I'm nursing my child, will the sex with my husband affect my breastfeeding? Will the milk be sufficient for both the child and husband? Is having full intercourse with my husband wearing a condom a safe contraceptive method or should I have Copper-T inserted for better safety?"
Firstly, congratulations on the birth of your baby. Theoretically, when a woman is breastfeeding effectively, she cannot become pregnant. It would be important to clarify with your midwife exactly how much it is necessary to breastfeed in order for this to be a "safe" way to prevent becoming pregnant. However, it is always advisable to use a condom, especially because many women do not actually breastfeed effectively enough to act as contraception. Condoms are a reliable form of contraception, with only a 2% failure rate when used properly. If they do fail by breaking etc, and you are worried about pregnancy, go to your local pharmacy or GP for the morning after pill, which must be taken no longer than 72 hours after unprotected sex. As for the coil, it is really personal preference. Some ladies find them uncomfortable and don't like the procedure. If you would prefer something like the coil, do book an appointment with your GP to discuss getting one fitted, and/or other options that may be of benefit to you.
It may be advisable for your husband to withhold from sucking your breasts and nipples because there is a small chance that he may introduce an infection to the breasts (mastitis). This would mean that breastfeeding would have to stop. Your nipples may also be sore from breast feeding - this might be something you want to discuss with your husband. I hope this help but of course your midwife should be able to inform you further.
"I do not know if this is a problem or not but I am a virgin and I have these white spots all over my penis which do not do any harm but I'm just worried to see if this is normal?"
These may well be papules, which are very common and nothing to worry about. They are just very normal benign little bumps that pop up, some people always have them, other people never have them. However, if they do begin to itch, and perhaps if this is accompanied by a secretion that is a bit smelly, it could be a sign of thrush or another infection.
However, it would also be useful from a medical perspective to find out if there are any other symptoms, for example localised itching or more generalised symptoms such as fever etc? You are a virgin but does this mean there has been no sexual contact whatsoever, touching, oral sex etc? It I think the best thing to put your mind at rest would be to visit a doctor with whom you can discuss the issue. In the meantime, I have found a link to a website which may be of some use to you: http://www.netdoctor.co.uk/menshealth/facts/spotsonthepenis.htm
"I live in Saudi Arabia sir my marriage is very near, maybe next month. I have in a big problem because I can't have sex for long with partner, usually only one or two minutes at a time. Please help, I am worried my wife will laugh at me."
There are many reasons why it can be difficult to get or keep an erection, which may be physical or psychological. A good place to start would probably be by visiting your doctor to make sure there is nothing wrong physically. It may also be helpful for you to talk to a counsellor about the emotional aspects of this. It is quite common for this to happened to men at some point in their lives, and is usually only temporary. I'm afraid we don't have any details of organisations in Saudi Arabia, but some of the websites below may help you find more information, or be useful for you to contact when you are in Leeds.
"I have a yellow discharge coming out of my penis and it sometimes stings when I urinate. What can I do and what could it be?"
It could be that you have a sexually transmitted infection (STI). The best thing to do when you have any such symptoms is to get tested. Most STIs can be easily identified and treated. Please go to the GUM clinic or your doctor. Please remember that if you have an STI, you could pass it during sex / sexual contact and some of them can be passed on even if a condom is used, so it may be best to refrain until you get checked out.
See the list of clinics and organisations below for places where you can get tested, and get further advice about STIs.
"Although my boyfriend and I didn't have sex, we did engage in some intimate "play". As far as I know fluids were not exchanged and the genital areas were not really touching. That was on July 7th and I got my period a week later and it was normal in every way. It is due again within the next week.
I'm having my usual pms symptoms but sometimes pregnancy symptoms are similar and now I'm thinking pregnancy in every little symptom."
Please do not worry, you cannot get pregnant from intimate play and it is extremely rare to have a period whilst pregnant. If this keeps worrying you, you could have a test to put your mind at ease (buy one from a clinic, get a free one from the Student Advice Centre at LUU or have one free at a GUM clinic or your doctor's surgery with the nurse) and perhaps you could talk to your doctor about using some form of contraceptive such as the pill or the IUD coil. This way you won't be worried about pregnancy, although these things do not act as a protection against sexually transmitted infections.
If you are a member of the student medical practice call them on 0113 295 4488 or make an appointment online: http://www.leeds.ac.uk/lsmp/.
You can contact the GUM clinic on 0113 392 6724 or 0113 392 6725 or drop in to make an appointment - go early, it is opposite Millennium Square, on Calverley Street. See the list below for other places where you can get a pregnancy test or further advice.
"I had sex with a high-risk girl just over eight weeks ago on a night out while I was drunk, which I'd do anything to take it back. I'm coming to the conclusion that the condom may have ripped. Just after two weeks from having sexual contact I had developed diarrhoea, little pink blotches on my chest which turn brown when I don't have a temperature, and a temperature (38c/38.5c) which is almost constant, and a coating on the tongue which keeps coming and going, lack of appetite, aches and pains in my legs, a chest infection with pressure in the chest and a few headaches and nausea at times. I also have little cluster of spots on my left forearm which have come up but now have almost gone. I am really worried that I might have HIV or some other infection. I have been to the doctors and he sent me for blood test which has shown up clean with no further action needed. I need help, please answer."
First of all, well done for going to the doctor's in the first place. I am not sure what your doctor actually tested you for, but they may have explained to you that the HIV virus takes about three months to become detectable in your blood, so you should be tested again three months after the sexual encounter just to be sure. If you think that the condom you used ripped it would be worth getting tested for other sexually transmitted infections as well (some, like Chlamydia which is very common, do not usually have any symptoms). You can do this at the GUM clinic or through the Terrence Higgins Trust - see details below.
Your symptoms do not sound typical of most STIs and could be due to another illness, so it would be worth going to a doctor anyway to have these checked out. HIV does attack the immune system and makes you more vulnerable to, and less able to recover from, other illnesses, but can take some time to have this effect. In any case, an HIV test after three months should clarify things.
All this is likely to be quite worrying and stressful for you and you may find it useful to talk to a counsellor, there are some organisations listed below which can help.
"I have small lumps around my scrotum and shaft. On the scrotum they have my pubic hair coming out of them but is it normal for them to be on my shaft?"
It's hard to say what exactly is 'normal' as people's bodies are all different! If the lumps are causing you concern you should get them checked out by a doctor, especially if they are painful or weeping at all, seem to be spreading, if you have any other unusual symptoms like discharge or pain, or if you have had unprotected sex recently. There is a list of different sexual health services on this page which you can use if you do not feel comfortable asking your GP.
"My partner and I have rekindled our sex life after a year of having no sex. We have been having sex for five days and I have developed a pea-size sore on my labia and my vagina is very sore and swollen. I have never had sex with anyone else and my partner says he has not either; I have no choice but to believe him. Do my symptoms sound like a STD?"
This does not sound like a common STI symptom, and may be a result of having resumed your sex-life after a long time, and your body not being used to regular sex. However, you should get it checked out by a doctor to be absolutely certain, and before you come to any conclusions about whether it is something your partner could have passed on.
There are a number of places in Leeds where you can get checked out by a health professional, if you do not want to go to your GP. See the list below for options. Also, the website Playsafe (www.condomessentialwear.co.uk/) has information about symptoms of different STIs. While this is no substitute for a professional diagnoses, it may help to be aware of some of the basic symptoms so that you know what to be aware from in future.
"I am certain that my girlfriend does not have a STD or STI, but a couple days after we had unprotected oral sex, and a hand-job, my penis started getting irritated at the very tip. A few days after, I had an unusual discharge from my penis, but not very much. I just got back from the doctor today and I am on antibiotics and have an ointment. Do you know what it could be?"
Any discharge from the penis does need to be checked by a doctor. There are a few STIs that may have this as a symptom. The irritation may also be a symptom of an STI; however, it may also be something else such as a reaction to your girlfriend's hand cream or jewellery.
If your doctor has prescribed treatment, then they should be able to tell you what they think it is - I am curious about why they did not. A trained professional needs to answer this question. If you are uncomfortable asking your doctor again, you could call:
City Wise 0113 295 4820 or Sexwise 0800 282 930 for free and confidential sexual health service for people under 25, or the National Men's Health Helpline on 0171 837 7324 for advice and information from Monday to Friday, 6.00pm to 10.00pm. Otherwise you could make an appointment at the G.U.M (Genital-Urinary Medicine) clinic in town which is opposite Millennium Square (0113 392 6725/24)
"I had unprotected sex about a month ago. Around 24 hours later I noticed a ache in my penis. A month on and I still have that ache in my penis, it is constant every minute, not that painful but constant. I have been for a STI test and it has been confirmed that I do not have an infection. I have been to the doctors and they are unsure what the problem is and have given me painkillers as there are no other symptoms other than the ache, no rash, redness, bruising, leakage etc and I can still get a erection and have sex as normal. On the night I had unprotected sex though, the girl has very forceful when masturbating me and I've been told by the doctor since that it is probably a trauma. If it is some kind of trauma through the vigorous masturbation then how long can I expect this pain to last, and is there a chance of long term damage?"
I am afraid that we are not medically trained so cannot answer your question specifically. However, I can suggest some numbers for you to call where somebody can help you:
City Wise 0113 2954820 or Sexwise 0800 282930. These services provide a free and confidential sexual health service for people under 25.
Alternatively, there is the National Men's Health Helpline on 0171 837 7324 which gives advice and information from Monday to Friday 6.00pm to 10.00pm.
If the problem persists then it is worth getting it checked out by your doctor again; however, it may just go away with time.
"I am a 41 year old woman and I recently had sex and in the morning and I release a large quantity of warm fluid. I am not having an orgasm at the time. I do not feel the sensation of urinating, it feels more like when your water breaks. It does not have an odour. What is it?"
Although I don't think this is anything to worry about, it would seem like a good idea to seek some professional advice. You could call NHS direct on 0845 46 47, talk to your GP or call Women's Health on 020 72516580 (Monday, Wednesday, Thursday, from 10.00am to 4.00pm). Alternatively, you could make an appointment at the GUM clinic. The doctors there are very well informed, friendly and approachable. Call 0113 392 6724 or 0113 392 6725.
"I have been having sexual relations with a woman who says she may have had a disease in the past but can't remember what it is, I am worried. What do I do? I have noticed white spots on my testicles."
Any unprotected sex (sex without using a condom) carries a risk of catching an STI if your partner is infected. There are some STIs (sexually transmitted infections) that can stay with you for a long time, so if your sexual partner had an STI, she might still have it in which case there is a chance that it has been passed on to you. The white spots could be a symptom of this, or they could be nothing at all.
You can find out for sure by going to get a sexual health check. If you have an STI you will be able to get it treated (make sure your partner gets treated too). If you leave an STI untreated the symptoms might get worse and it may have long term effects. There are lots of places where you can get an STI test and all of them are free and confidential – see the list below.
Where can I get free condoms in Leeds? Thank you.
There are a number of places you can get free condoms from in Leeds. If you are a student, you can get some free from the Student Advice Centre in LUU. You can also get them from sexual health clinics and family planning centres. The GUM clinic opposite Millenium Square on Calverley Street gives out free condoms.
City Wise (1 Eastgate) also supplies them and can give you information on other places to get them.
Also, if you are under 25 you can apply for a c-card which will enable you to get free condoms at a wide variety of places around Leeds. Please see www.lct.ac.uk/studentservices2/documents/c_card.htm
"I recently had sex with a man, and I did not use any protection. He also inserted a finger too; will I get a disease from this? Or should I go to the doctor for an HIV test?"
Sexually transmitted infections (STIs) are usually passed on through having unprotected penetrative and/or oral sex with an infected person. Touching or inserting fingers will not give you an STI. As you had unprotected sex, you should get a full sexual health check (including an HIV test) just to make sure you did not catch an STI. You could also contact MESMAC (a service for men who have sex with men) for testing times. Remember that it usually takes three months for HIV to show up in a test, so you will need to be re-tested in again in three months if you think you were at risk.
Free condoms are available from the Student Advice Centre in LUU, from the Marketplace (for under 25s) at 28 Kirkgate, Leeds (tel 246 1659) and from lots of the places.
I am an International student of Health Management. On the weekend of 12th May 2007, I went to the Union building toilets' condom vending machines. Firstly, one of the machines that looked new did not have condoms. The visibly worn-out machine next to the toilets swallowed my £1, without giving me condoms. How can students access condoms for protection against pregnancy, STIs and HIV/AIDS? Isn't it vital that LUU installs working machine and periodic checks made to ensure a constant supply of condoms for students? I hope this is a worthy concern. God bless
Thank you for your email. We will let LUU know about the machines. We agree that it is important for condom machines to be operating at all times!
You can also get free condoms from LUU's Student Advice Centre (on the first floor of the Union building). They are in a small set of drawers in the Advice Centre's information area and should be accessible at all hours. There are other places you can get free condoms and we recommend people carry condoms at all times so that you are never caught out. Some other places to get them are:
Sexual health clinics and family planning centres.
The GUM clinic opposite Millenium Square on Calverley Street gives out free condoms.
City Wise (1 Eastgate) also supplies them and can give you information on other places to get them.
Also, if you are under 25 you can apply for a c-card which will enable you to get free condoms at a wide variety of places around Leeds. Please see
www.lct.ac.uk/studentservices2/documents/c_card.htm
“Once you are pregnant, can you make an abortion in Leeds? How much does it costs and where can you do it? I am an international student.”
There are places in Leeds where you can get an abortion. If you are registered with a doctor here (for example Leeds Student Medical Practice) you should make an appointment with them and they may be able to refer you for a termination throughthe National Health Service (NHS). See this link for information on types of abortion and the Leeds Student Medical Practice Procedure www.leeds.ac.uk/lsmp/healthadvice/ToP/Top.html
You can also have an abortion done privately but this is expensive (usually over £450). If you are interested in talking to somebody about this (and you won’t need a referral from a doctor), the Marie Stopes website at www.mariestopes.org.uk/uk/abortion-at-msi.htm can provide advice, counseling and terminations. Tel: 0845 300 8090 (24hr/7 day helpline). BPAS (British Pregnancy Advisory Service) also provide information and advice. Contact them on telephone number 08457 30 40 30 (7day helpline)
The Student Advice Centre at LUU can, on some cases, help with the cost of a private abortion, if the student meets certain financial criteria and if the abortion cannot be carried out on the NHS. To find out if you can get financial help from the Advice Centre you will need to make an appointment with a guidance worker, by contacting 0113 380 1300, emailing advice@luu.leeds.ac.uk or visiting the Advice Centre on the first floor of LUU.
You may also wish to speak to a counselor about this. Leeds University have a student counseling service with trained counselors you can talk with in private. Contact them on telephone number 343 4107 or visit their website at www.leeds.ac.uk/studentcounselling/.
"I feel sick after having sex. Why is that?"
There could be many reasons for this – to know for sure, and to rule out a medical reason you could get a check up from your GP, or register with the Leeds Student Medical Practice if you don’t have a GP yet in Leeds (4 Blenheim Court, telephone number: 295 4488). If it is worrying you it might also be helpful to speak to a counselor at the University’s counseling service. Contact them on telephone number 343 4107 or visit their website at www.leeds.ac.uk/studentcounselling/.
GUM Clinic
Sunnybank Wing, Great George Street, LGI
Outpatient clinic specialising in sexual health services and support
M/T/W/F 8.45 - 5pm/T 8.30 - 7pm
Tel: 3926725 female clinic
Tel: 3926724 male clinic
Tel: 3926058 health advisers
No Symptoms Check-up
STI Screening - do not need to be showing symptoms
Thurs 4.30-6.30 LGI (same as GUM clinic)
Tel: men 0113 3926 724
Women 1003 3926 725
Appt needed but usually available til few days before session
Terrence Higgins Trust Fastest
No 2 Oxford Place
Walk-in sexual health check up clinic targeted at students Under 25
Monday/Thursday 4-8pm
Tel: 236 4720
http://info.tht.org.uk/fastest/leeds.asp
Citywise
No 1 Eastgate
Mon-Fri Under 25's contraception and sexual health service
Tel: 295 4820
www.leedsinitiative.org/initiativeDocuments/2006523_79366702.pdf
The Market Place Leeds
28 Kirkgate Leeds
Drop in centre for young people aged 16-25. Advice and counselling, free condoms, free pregnancy testing and Chlamydia testing.
Tel: 246 1659 www.google.co.uk/search?hl=en&q=marketplace+leeds&btnG=Search&meta=cr%3DcountryUK%7CcountryGB
Leeds Student Medical Practice
4 Blenheim Court
Tel: 295 4488
www.leeds.ac.uk/lsmp/
Leeds University Counselling Centre
19 Clarendon Place
Tel: 343 4107
www.leeds.ac.uk/studentcounselling/
Leeds Met Counselling Service
2nd Floor D Block D206
Tel: 283 2600 ext 5974
Yorkshire MESMAC Leeds
A sexual health project providing support to predominantly gay men, bisexual men and men who have sex with men.
Tel: 0113 244 4209
www.mesmac.co.uk
Playsafe website has information about sexual health and STIs /www.condomessentialwear.co.uk
Condoms Direct - www.condomsdirect.co.uk. An online retailer of condoms - buying condoms without embarrassment.
